Healthy Relationships

After leaving an abusive relationship, learning to trust your judgement feels impossible. It's likely that you've never been taught what a healthy relationship looks like, just an unhealthy one. This page aims to educate on the red, green and pink flags of relationships, helping you feel more prepared and able to trust yourself.

Red Flags

Red flags refer to subtle warning signs that a relationship is not healthy. This can be an individual action, but is more commonly a pattern of repeated behaviours. If you notice red flags in a relationship, it is important to protect your well-being, set boundaries, and re-evaluate the relationship.

Love
Bombing

When things move so quickly, and the abuser does so much for their partner, it can cause them to feel indebted to the abuser, making it difficult to set boundaries and say no. Additionally, you cannot fully evaluate the relationship before making big decisions.

Love Bombing

Pink Flags

A pink flag is a behaviour that warrants concern. Usually, this type of behaviour is a one-off, but it can also be a pattern. If the person doesn’t change their behaviour after being spoken to about it, this becomes a red flag. At this point, it becomes necessary to set boundaries and re-evaluate the relationship.

Actions that don't match their words

While it is important to note that this inconsistency can be accidental rather than a sign of a potential abusive partner, when it is intentional, it can err into manipulation, as they never intended to follow through on their word.

Green Flags

Green flags are signs that a relationship is healthy and works for the people involved. It also indicates that both parties are safe people and are able to be trusted

Respects and has boundaries

This is a sign of emotional maturity and respect for others and themselves.